How would you bear the expenses of marriage and life after marriage? Another user said, complaining about the unsatisfying economic situation in the country and the continuous price hike. You should know that after marriage you become occupied by an inevitable enemy that would subsequently waste your youth. Following marriage, you would find yourself saving money just to buy diapers, a user, apparently has children, said.
Recently a user has accessed the group and asked people who have been married about the things they miss the most after marriage? Although most of the reasons are obviously related to financial issues, many men think that social problems between couples worsen the situation.
Men complain that involving one of the parents in the couple's private problems is very common and disastrous. Most men think that women are not burdened with financial responsibility and therefore they do not have a reason to be bad-tempered. Not all the comments were pessimistic. Yet, perhaps the majority on social media now thinks that marriage wastes youth, money and is not good for psychological health.
Cultural differences can manifest themselves in many ways. I am lucky mine is more open. He allows me to work and keep my money or share in the expenses. It is my choice. He is also OK with me having friends that are guys, as long as it does not cross [certain] boundaries.
Just like many Egyptian women, foreign women can also face the horrors of exploitation, abuse, and neglect, and remain to be overlooked by the rest of society.
Share this on WhatsApp. Egyptian Streets 3 September Related Items egypt expats featured intercultural marriage marriage relationships. More in Feature. Amina Zaineldine 7 November They so much desired to have a baby and took it for granted that pregnancy would occur immediately after their marriage.
They encouraged Karima not to wait for long before seeing a doctor. Faced with frustration, Samer and Karima began a long process of medical consultations, tests, and treatment. Finally in , Karima gave birth to their baby girl after almost five years of marriage. The baby was born prematurely, and the parents had to draw on different economic and social resources to ensure the baby got the care she needed.
First, the hospital where the delivery took place did not have an incubator and Samer had to shuttle between different hospitals until he found a functioning incubator to rent. Second, because Karima had a cesarean section and a complicated insurance plan, she had to be hospitalized in a different hospital, away from her baby. So she called on her nursing colleagues in the hospital where her daughter was staying to be sure the baby was receiving proper attention.
Both she and Samer described the agonizing days they spent before knowing if their baby was going to make it or not. They were both thrilled the day the little girl left the hospital but with a hefty bill for the parents to pay. Karima had to pull strings within her professional and social networks to have the huge hospital bill reduced to a more affordable amount.
During their journey to parenthood, Samer and Karima experienced financial and emotional challenges that caused great suffering. They had to endure several setbacks, including a miscarriage and the great expense of several rounds of treatment. In addition to the financial worries, they also felt the pressure of time.
When Samer was looking for a suitable wife, he often compared himself to some of his close friends, whose children were teenagers, and worried about living in good health long enough to raise his own children. As an auto body worker who relied heavily on his physical strength, he was mindful of how his stamina and ability to work for long hours under difficult conditions was becoming weaker. These anxieties intensified when his wife did not become pregnant immediately and he found it difficult to face disappointments and setbacks.
During this period, his wife and family were a major source of support and they all were delighted when Karima became pregnant and it was clear that she would carry the baby to term. At the age of 45 and having developed several health problems mainly linked to his digestive system and injuries sustained during work , it was becoming difficult for him to work long and hard hours in an auto body repair shop. This was a substantial amount of money but the couple thought it would be a wise investment that would enable Samer to transition to a less exhausting and better-paying occupation.
The plan was that Samer would become a driver, using his new minivan to deliver material for shop owners in different parts of the city. With the baby on the way, and a new job for Samer set in motion, all seemed perfect in their lives. A few days after Karima gave birth, disaster struck. It is the norm in Egypt that after giving birth new mothers take their babies and spend the first week or so being cared for at the homes of their own mothers.
The mother had recently moved into an area on the outskirts of Cairo to be near another married but stay-at-home daughter who could look after her. Arriving one evening to spend the night with his wife and baby, Samer parked his minivan on the street and unwittingly fell into an extortion scheme. Samer was awakened by a dreadful call. When Samer answered yes, he heard what many car owners in Cairo have come to dread since the revolution brought a surge in crime. The shocking development filled Samer with rage.
How could someone do such a thing to him, a man known for his courage and strength? But then, this was not his neighborhood. He was unknown here. He did not have the reputation that, in his own neighborhood, would have ensured the protection of his property. None of these neighbors knew him or would intervene to prevent the theft of his vehicle. The brother-in-law was instructed to go to a certain place and drop off the 5, pounds in a designated spot, and to then find the minivan parked at a nearby gas station.
He left the money as ordered, but then spent hours searching unsuccessfully for the minivan. When he arrived back home, Samer knew even before the man spoke that they had been deceived.
The loss was financially crippling.
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